In the last week or so I lost about ten pounds…I think between the stress of finals and going through a break up my appetite has been severely curbed and neglected. I noticed that my period was running late, but I didn’t freak out really because I just figured it was from the weight loss all the stress was causing a hormonal imbalance.
Well, once my period did begin I realized that it was non-normal for me. I tend to be heavy for about four days, medium on the fifth and light on the sixth and seventh. Yes—I have horrible periods that are long and heavy. This time however, I noticed I was heavy one day and light for the rest of the days. I typically have to wear huge pads because they are the only thing that protects me. Wearing pads became increasingly bothersome as I was barely bleeding. So on Saturday I wasn’t really bleeding, but I had to work so I decided to wear a tampon JUST IN CASE thinking it’d be a little more comfy. After work I changed my tampon and didn’t find much on it, but I decided that since I was going out I would wear one just in case because normally I would still be on my period.
Saturday evening I was under the spell of vodka and tequila; two most deadly poisons. During that time I lost both my keys and phone, but apparently I contacted my ex boyfriend via Facebook to come pick me up. He of course did come pick me and I was a mess…and somewhere along the way we ended having intercourse (which we actually try really hard not to do because of religious purposes).
The next day I felt complete ambivalence. I was ashamed of my complete and utter lack of control; excessive drinking, losing my phone, my keys, contacting my ex and having sex. However, I also felt complete and giddy having him in my presence…him holding me and telling me he loves me… it was as if my heart was a hardened, crumbled up blackened rose that re-blossomed and softened, our time was beautiful. I missed him so much and my self-destructive behavior put him in front of me even if for only a couple hours.
Later on when I got home and of course after being told by my ex that I was coping in all the wrong ways…I felt horrible shame and guilt no more or less worthy than a prisoner on death row for murder because I was brutally assassinating my own soul. I myself, hijacked my own morals, self-esteem and even worldly possessions and now it was time for me to apprehend my heart and mind and investigate it as crime scene. In addition to what felt like my metaphysical death I felt physically deceased. I was getting a fever, chills, headache, couldn’t keep down food and trouble sleeping. Sounds like nothing more than a killer hang over right? Well day two and three kick in and I am still horribly ill and now also feeling fatigue, dizziness and nausea. I think to myself well it must be a manifestation of how distraught I am over the break up especially after seeing him and feeling him…it must have shattered my already fragile psyche…
Yesterday I filled my day and evening with prayers for forgiveness and devoted to reading Psalms. In my readings I was overwhelmed by how much God really wants to protect us and be our shelter even when we falter. It is Him we should seek whenever we feel assaulted or attacked not booze, sex or ex’s. I started to pray and pray for his protection against arrows (things meant to harm you psychologically emotionally, etc), terrors (evils of man such as rape, murder, beatings, etc), pestilence (illness, germs, all of the yucky physical ailments I was feeling), and destruction (natural disasters).
While reading this book and making my prayers I get the overwhelming sense to use the restroom. I go and I think I need to throw up which doesn’t happen…so I try the other end…nothing happens. Then right when I am about to give up I start to urinate. Upon urination I feel something push threw me. My mind drifts and I panic mentally, but try to remain physically calm. I start to think to myself what if I was pregnant and I am pushing out a still born fetus?! This is perhaps why my period was so strange maybe it wasn’t a real period at all maybe it was spot bleeding due to abnormalities that occur during pregnancy—maybe even from the binge drinking. I finally get the courage to get up and look inside the toilet…and again ambivalence! Is that a…is that even possible…it is a tampon!
It turns out that I had had sexual intercourse with my tampon still inside me because I was so drunk that I didn’t even realize it was inside of me. Don’t ask me how I didn’t know or didn’t feel it because I was so horribly intoxicated that I don’t even remember the sex or most of the night for that matter. I want to point out that because it had been inside of me for so many days I was suffering from signs of toxic shock syndrome which why I had been so ill. I know I sound like a horribly hypocritical person as I discuss how in one night I drank myself to oblivion and then had sexual intercourse with my ex boyfriend only to turn to God and prayer the next day…but I want to point out that I am christian and that just means I make mistakes (Huge ones sometimes!! Even life threatening!), I falter and sometimes push away from Gods grace, but in the end I find my way and I do rely on God to pick me up and teach me lessons.
I want to point out here that I prayed for pestilence and told the Lord that I would trust him to keep me safe and healthy and soon after I am dispersing this tampon from my body. I know it sounds crazy (and disgusting), but upon reading, many times women who wear tampons often, do actually forget they are wearing them and days later finally remember. Upon remembering they have to fish them out themselves or go to the doctors office for help. I, on the other hand, had no clue it was inside me and it dispersed itself on its own. Had it not done so I would have never known there was a tampon lodge deep inside me and toxic shock could have taken over my entire body leaving me hospitalized or even dead. I don’t think its coincidence that following my prayer to rebuke pestilence and trust in the Lord that this strange event happened.
I am feeling a lot better after the incident and today although my appetite is still off. As I said earlier I lost about 10lbs in a week which may very well be a symptom of stress from school and the breakup. This would also explain why my period was so off because women need leptin cells aka fat for healthy hormonal production and to spark their periods. This is why when you think about athletic women such as gymnasts, who have low cal intake, can go months without having a period. Sorry for this tangent where I go off and teach you about the wonders of the women body!
Anyway, I just want to conclude with…I give glory to God because despite how imperfect I am He still gave me grace and healed me from pestilence — and all I had to do was repent and seek His refuge.